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Discover personalized parenting coaching and support with Confidently Mommin’. Empower your journey as a parent with expert guidance, resources, and community connection. Start transforming your family dynamic today! Yell Less, Smile More! Support for Parents Raising Kids Ages 0-18 Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox Yell Less, Smile More! Support for Parents Raising Kids Ages 0-18 Get Free Support in Your Inbox Schedule A Free Consultation Get My FREE E-Guide: "How to Get Kids to Listen with 3 Simple Strategies " As Seen On Get My FREE E-Guide: "How to Get Kids to Listen with 3 Simple Strategies " Get the Guide Welcome to Confidently Mommin'! Helping parents of strong-willed, highly sensitive, or neurodivergent kids calmly, confidently and effectively respond to their child’s challenging behaviors and enjoy their family time. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox Best Parenting Coach in the United States for 2025 Evergreen Awards recognizes Melissa Schulz as the Best Parenting Coach in the United States for 2025 for her outstanding leadership, innovation, and dedication to excellence in the parenting and family support space through Confidently Mommin’. Read More LESS... Yelling Tantrums Hitting Meltdowns Defiance Stress Walking on eggshells Marital tension MORE... Laughter Smooth mornings Happy family dinners Bedtime cuddles Energy Cherished memories Connection Do you have a wonderful child who is also stubborn, strong-willed, sensitive, deeply feeling, hyperactive, impulsive, angry, or anxious? Does your child have a diagnosis like ADHD or Autism? Are you stressed out and overwhelmed by your child’s behavior? Have you tried everything but nothing works? Understand your kid and know just how to respond Become the parent you want to be Resources Read More Check back soon Once posts are published, you’ll see them here. Become the parent you want to be. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox

Meet the founder of Confidently Mommin’ and discover her passion for empowering parents. Learn about her journey, qualifications, and commitment to providing expert parenting coaching and support tailored to your unique needs. About Me I am a mom of 3 with a Master’s Degree in Counseling. I’m a Board Certified Behavior Analyst with over 20 years of experience working with children with severe behavior disorders and providing support and training to their caregivers. I specialize in helping parents learn how to calmly and confidently manage any and all challenging behaviors by providing research based, practical tools and parenting best practices. I have successfully worked with hundreds of children and families across the country. I use a unique blend of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), Polyvagal theory, neuroscience, mindfulness and mindset work in my coaching practice. I have expertise in supporting children with high needs, including strong willed children, deeply feeling children, and/or children with a diagnosis or neurodiversity. More About My Professional Background More About My Personal Life Featured On Living Your Legacy with Michelle Slaney-Trovato Podcast Episode 90 Living your Legacy Podcast Listen to it on Spotify Listen to it on Apple Podcast Living Your Legacy with Michelle Slaney-Trovato Podcast Episode 90 Living your Legacy Podcast Listen to it on Spotify Listen to it on Apple Podcast Been There Got Out IG Live Interview Been There Got Out Listen to interview Stress Free IEP Podcast with Frances Shefter Watch on YouTube Listen to interview Listen to interview More About My Professional Background I started my career 22 years ago working in group homes for children who had been abused, in shelters for teenage prostitutes, and in teen drug rehabilitation homes. I then worked at a school for children with emotional disturbances, at first in the classroom and later as the Director of Behavioral Services overseeing their program for students with moderate to severe autism. I later served as the Director of Behavioral Services at a large organization serving children and adults with autism in both school and group home settings. In 2009, I founded my first company, which provided in-home behavioral health (ABA) therapy for children with autism. The company grew to have 75 employees and consistently won awards for being one of the best companies to work for in the nation, and providing the highest quality ABA services in the area. I founded Confidently Mommin’ in 2020 to serve families as a Parenting Coach. Using my extensive education and background, I use proven processes to help parents know how to calmly and confidently manage any and all of their child’s challenging behaviors and enjoy their family time. I have been a guest lecturer at Azusa Pacific University and San Jose State University and have supervised BCBA candidates internationally. I am a popular speaker on parenting and behavioral strategies. More About My Personal Life My husband Brian and I have been married for 17 years. We have 3 hilarious, wonderful, and exhausting children and a sweet pit bull named Goose. I am very involved in my church and serve as a leader in the mom’s ministry. I volunteer as a Girl Scout Troop Leader for my daughter’s troop. I am a runner and love to be outdoors, read, and spend time with friends and family. I am obsessed with personal development and growth. I never miss an Office Ladies Podcast or a Marvel movie, and would live at Disneyland if I could. Become the parent you want to be. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox

Do you have a wonderful child who is also stubborn, strong-willed, sensitive, deeply feeling, hyperactive, impulsive, angry, or anxious? Download my free guide + access to my most popular webinar: How to Get Kids to Listen. Yell Less, Smile More! Support for Parents Raising Kids Ages 0-18 Schedule A Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox Get My FREE E-Guide: "How to Get Kids to Listen with 3 Simple Strategies " Get the Guide Want your kids to listen without yelling? Get my free guide + access to my most popular webinar: How to Get Kids to Listen Get the Guide Does this sound like you? You love your kids — but parenting feels like a constant battle. You’re yelling more than you want to. You’re second-guessing your every move. You feel like you’ve tried everything… and nothing’s worked. You’re Googling parenting tips late at night but still feel stuck. If that’s you — this guide is your first step to less stress and more connection! Get the Guide Here’s what you’ll get inside the free guide + webinar: Simple strategies that work for kids 18 months to 18 years Tools to increase cooperation (without yelling or bribing!) The replay of my most popular workshop: How to Get Kids to Listen A gentle, confidence-building approach to parenting Get the Guide Do you have a wonderful child who is also stubborn, strong-willed, sensitive, deeply feeling, hyperactive, impulsive, angry, or anxious? Does your child have a diagnosis like ADHD or Autism? Are you stressed out and overwhelmed by your child’s behavior? Have you tried everything but nothing works? Understand your kid and know just how to respond Become the parent you want to be Become the parent you want to be. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox

Support for Moms of Strong-Willed, Highly Sensitive, and Neurodiverse Kids Your Next Steps Thank you so much for joining the 30-Day Gratitude Challenge — I'm so glad you're here. 💛 Your workbook and welcome email are on their way to your inbox right now. Please take a moment to check your inbox (and your spam/promotions tab just in case) and download your workbook so you're ready to go. Your first daily text will arrive tomorrow morning — keep an eye on your phone! And remember, you can text me back anytime. I read every message. To be sure you don’t miss anything important, please add Melissa@MelissaSchulz.com to your contacts or safe sender list. I can't wait to walk these 30 days with you. 💛

Read real testimonials from parents who have worked with Melissa Shulz, a Board Certified Behavior Analyst and parenting coach at Confidently Mommin’. Discover how her expert guidance has transformed families and empowered parents. Testimonials Sarah B. Melissa Schulz is the real deal! She was super responsive when I posted about how to handle some sensory issues my middle child is having. In a short 30 minute chat, she was encouraging and provided great strategies I could use right away. She knew exactly what I was talking about when I described the issue and her deep expertise in child behavior and parenting shone through! I would highly recommend running your parenting questions by Melissa! Sarah M. Melissa is the absolute best. She genuinely cares and empathizes with Mom life! She helped us so much in sleep training our 4 month old, I couldn’t ask for a better coach thru any of it! Bindiya M. Melissa has been an amazing coach and I have learned so much from her. She provides just enough support and challenges you to be a better version of yourself. She is kind, funny and overall, a beautiful human being. Blessed to know her and have her in my life. Michelle C. I have been working with Melissa for over a year and with her help, I have made so many improvements in several areas of my life. She has helped me become aware of my own thinking patterns and how to change them. She has helped me with my parenting and with my classroom management. Working with her has been so beneficial and I would recommend it to anyone interested. Katherine G. Melissa truly wants to help parents grow and enjoy parenting! She has all the expertise and schooling and knows what she's talking about! Aside from her credentials, when you meet with her, you instantly enter a judgment-free zone, which is the best feeling and place to be when working on yourself. Priscilla C. I loved working with Melissa! Her knowledge, compassion and helpful tips came when we needed it the most with our deeply feeling child. She patiently answered all my questions and what ifs, and helped me see what I was missing. Melissa is so easy to talk to and personable. I am so glad to have her as a resource for what the next season of life brings! Kelly L. Melissa was a game changer in my Mom-Game for helping me build my relationship and understanding of my “Spicey Mama 2 Year Old”. Being a teacher and having a “Pretty Chill Little Dude” 5 year old, I thought (keyword thought) the second rodeo would be an easier one. Wrong. Having never experienced full blown tantrums in the grocery stores, backbreaking dance moves while trying to get Spicey Mama in her car seat, full on eye contact while slamming her head into the ground just for fun (? ), and total pet torture while smiling, I was pretty sure there was a switch on my child’s back that was incorrectly flipped from “Good” to (you know)… I cried nightly. My husband and I yelled daily. Still guilty about this one, but I asked God why my son didn’t have these issues, but my daughter did. I questioned all of my parenting and teaching philosophies and what we did wrong. Then came: Melissa. Melissa was my fresh breath of air. Melissa reminded me of what it means to be TWO. She brought me into a two year old’s understanding of what life is. She gave me perspective. After I gained a new understanding of what my toddler was seeing and feeling, we then strategized. We pinpointed specific issues needing to work on as a family and with S.M., and game planned. This is what we needed. There was no “quick fix” for my daughter, but long term intensive, loving attention and structured language to support the goals I set with Melissa. This was all done in ONE session! Parents, if you are in a place where you are struggling with parenting, want to set a goal, need a new perspective on how tiny humans work, or just need a fellow parent to laugh/cry/feel frustrated/let it out with, Melissa is the gal for the gig! Become the parent you want to be. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox

If summer has already started to feel like constant “I’m bored” “Can I have screens?” “Just one more show…” you’re not alone—and this is exactly why I created this for you. Yell Less, Smile More! Support for Parents Raising Kids Ages 0-18 Schedule A Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox The “I’m Bored” Solution The Summer System that Ends Screen Time Battles Tired of hearing “I’m bored” all day… and negotiating screen time over and over? You’re not alone—and you don’t need more rules or more willpower. You need a system that actually works. Inside this free guide, you’ll learn how to: ✔ Give your kids clear structure (without being rigid) ✔ Stop daily screen time battles ✔ Help your kids stay busy without relying on screens ✔ Teach independence so they stop coming to you for everything This is for you if: Your kids default to screens all day You feel like the screen time “police” You’ve tried setting limits… and it turns into a fight You want a calmer, more structured summer (without making it complicated) Imagine this instead: Your kids know exactly what to do. They stay busy on their own. And screen time is no longer a daily battle. 👉 Get the free Calm Summer System now And if you’re ready for more support… If you’re thinking “This would help… but my child would push back hard” or “I need something that actually works for my kid” You don’t have to figure it out alone. I help moms create simple, effective systems tailored to how their child’s brain works—so things actually stick. 👉 Apply for a free consultation Become the parent you want to be. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox

Read real testimonials from parents who have worked with Melissa Shulz, a Board Certified Behavior Analyst and parenting coach at Confidently Mommin’. Discover how her expert guidance has transformed families and empowered parents." Speaking Engagements Melissa Schulz, MA, BCBA, is a sought-after parenting speaker known for her warm, relatable, and deeply practical approach to behavior and child development. With a rare blend of clinical expertise and real-life humor, Melissa equips parents, educators, and professionals with evidence-based tools they can use immediately—without guilt, shame, or perfectionism. Her audiences leave feeling seen, supported, and empowered to handle even the most challenging behaviors with confidence and calm. Keynote Talks From Explosive to Empowered: How to Respond (Not React) When Behavior Gets Tough Calm the Parenting Chaos: 5 Simple Shifts to Feel More in Control (No Matter What Your Kids Do) Request Speaking Info In this video: a clip from Melissa’s live MomCon 2025 workshop on understanding what really drives children’s behavior. Past Speaking Engagements Livermore Learning Tree Preschool Moms Connect at Vintage Grace Resonate Church Bright Beginnings Folsom Co-Op and Preschool The Mom Co at Twin Cities Church Loomis Life Care Roseville Parent Education Preschool The Mom Co at Life Community Church MomsNext at Foundation Christian Church HerStory International Women's Day Online Summit Podcast Guest Appearances See Podcast Appearances Thank you thank you thank you! Wow! What an incredible experience to have had Melissa come speak to our mommas! She is not only sweet and endearing, easy to talk and listen to, and full of experience, knowledge and educated expertise; but she makes you feel seen, known, heard and as if you had already known her for years! Her presentation was so helpful to all who were there and helped give us all a few more “tools” in our parenting tool belts. I highly recommend you seek her out and have her be a part of your parenting experience! I cannot say enough about how great she was! Carrie W. Would you like Melissa to speak at your upcoming event? Request Speaking Info

For moms raising strong-willed, sensitive, or neurodiverse kids who love their child deeply but feel overwhelmed by the big behaviors at home. In this free five day reset, you will stop guessing, understand what is really driving your child’s big behaviors, and finally begin breaking the cycle. Group Coaching When nothing seems to work with your strong willed, sensitive, or neurodiverse child… finally understand the behavior and know exactly what to do next. Subheadline: Inside this coaching program you will learn the proven system that helps moms stop reacting, understand what is actually driving their child’s behavior, and create real lasting change at home. Join Us! Spaces limited/countdown- no changes You Love Your Child More Than Anything But parenting them feels harder than you ever expected. The meltdowns seem to come out of nowhere. The power struggles drain your energy. You repeat yourself over and over and somehow nothing changes. You try to stay calm, sometimes you succeed, but other times you hear yourself yelling and immediately feel awful. You read the books, try the parenting strategies, promise yourself tomorrow will be different, and yet the same cycle keeps happening. Part of you wonders: What am I missing? The truth is, many strong willed, highly sensitive, and neurodiverse kids do not respond to traditional parenting strategies, and not because you are doing something wrong, or because your child is broken. It is because their nervous system and brain work differently. Until you understand why the behavior is happening, the strategies rarely work. Maybe you recognize some of this: Your child melts down over things that seem small Simple requests turn into arguments Screens cause constant battles You feel like you are walking on eggshells You want to stay calm but keep getting triggered If this sounds like your house lately, you are in the right place. What to Expect By the end of this free reset, you will: Understand why the big behaviors keep happening Feel more steady and less reactive in the moment See your child’s behavior in a completely different way Know what to try next instead of guessing Feel hopeful again Register Now Hi, I'm Melissa I help moms of strong-willed, highly sensitive, and neurodiverse kids understand big behaviors and finally break the cycle at home. My work combines behavior science, nervous system awareness, and real world parenting in a way that feels practical and doable. I’m a national speaker and award-winning parenting coach and I’ve supported hundreds of families navigating big behaviors at home. I’m also a mom of 3 with neurodiverse and strong-willed kids of my own. I know how exhausting it can feel when nothing seems to work, and I’ve created a proven system that makes lasting change possible. Melissa Schulz, MS, BCBA Behavior Expert & Parenting Coach Named “Best Parenting Coach in the United States in 2025” March 16 to March 20, 2026 How It Works Over five days inside a private Facebook group, you will receive: One short video you can watch (10-15 min) One live group coaching call Simple shifts you can try immediately A supportive space with other moms who get it This is designed to feel supportive, not overwhelming. And it’s free! Register Now Why This is Different? Most parenting advice focuses on what to do in the moment. Charts. Consequences. Scripts. Staying calm. But if the same big behaviors keep happening, it is not because you need more tips. Big behaviors are not random. They follow patterns that most parents were never taught to see. When you understand what is really happening and change your response in the right places, the behavior begins to change too. That is what this free reset will help you do. This free reset is for you if: You are exhausted from the same big behaviors happening over and over You keep wondering what you are missing You feel guilty after you react You know your child is not “bad” but you do not know what to do differently You are ready for something to change You Do Not Have to Keep Living in the Same Cycle You are not failing. Your child is not broken. And this is not random. There is a reason the big behaviors keep happening. And when you understand it, everything starts to feel more manageable. Calm is possible. Change is possible. And it starts here. Join us inside The 5 Day Calm Mom Reset. Register Now Kick-Off Week All times are PST Mon 4/6 at 10 am Tues 4/7 at 5pm Wed 4/8 at 11 am Thurs 4/9 at 9 am Fri 4/10 at 11 am Weekly Calls 4/15 at 11 am 4/22 at 11 am 4/28 at 5pm 5/6 at 11 am 5/13 at 11 am 5/20 at 11 am 5/26 at 5pm 6/3 at 11 am 6/10 at 11 am 6/17 at 11 am 6/24 at 11 am 6/30 at 5 pm Questions? Click the button below to contact me directly with any questions you have! Contact Me

What if 2 minutes a day could help you feel calmer, lighter, and more connected? If you’re raising a child who is strong-willed, sensitive, or neurodiverse… your days can feel intense, overwhelming, and sometimes just a lot. This challenge is for YOU. 30-Day Gratitude Challenge For Moms of Strong-Willed, Highly Sensitive & Neurodiverse Kids Join the Challenge 2 Minutes of Gratitude. Feel Better All Day. 💛 What if 2 minutes a day could help you feel calmer, lighter, and more connected? If you’re raising a child who is strong-willed, sensitive, or neurodiverse… your days can feel intense, overwhelming, and sometimes just a lot. This challenge is for YOU. Here's What You Get 📱 Daily Morning Texts (30 Days) Every morning, I’ll send you a short, simple prompt telling you what to notice that day. A small win A moment of peace A strength in your child Something you did well A moment of connection Just notice it. Then write it down that evening. You can also reply directly to the texts anytime to share what you notice or ask questions. I read every message 💛 📝 Beautiful Printable Workbook Each night you’ll take 1–2 minutes to write down what you noticed. This is where the transformation happens — not by forcing positivity, but by recognizing the moments that already exist. 💛 Immediate Benefits You’ll Feel Less overwhelm More patience More confidence More connection A calmer nervous system A better understanding of your child And a better relationship with yourself Most challenges are one way. This one isn’t. You don’t have to do it alone. ✨ Why Gratitude Works (Especially For Moms Like You) Gratitude isn’t fluffy. It’s science . It calms the autonomic nervous system. It reduces emotional reactivity. It increases resilience. It makes parenting easier — and more enjoyable. For moms of big-feeling kids, this is life-changing. Join Now 🎉 Join the 30-Day Gratitude Challenge It’s simple: 1️⃣ Sign up 2️⃣ Receive short daily texts you can actually respond to 3️⃣ Write your evening reflections 4️⃣ Feel better — truly — all day You can reply back to me anytime. I’m right there with you in this. Join Now 💛 Your Next Step: Join the 30-Day Gratitude Challenge Join the 30-Day Challenge The simple strategies I will teach you will completely change how you think about your child's behavior, how you interact with them, and transform your connection with them forever. Learning these strategies right now is everything for your family. "Our home feels calmer — and my child’s behavior is already improving." After the triggering session, everything changed. Our mornings are calmer, my strong-willed 4-year-old has fewer problem behaviors, and I feel more confident. I highly recommend this program to other parents! – Jane Want More Personalized Support? If you’re longing for calm, consistency, and confidence with your strong-willed or sensitive child, I’d love to support you. Apply for a consultation below. Apply Here You’re doing an amazing job, Mama. Truly. Let’s make your days feel lighter — together. 💛

Find answers to frequently asked questions about Confidently Mommin’ and Melissa Shulz, a Board Certified Behavior Analyst. Learn more about parenting coaching services, approaches, and how to get started on your journey. FAQ Do you have an office near me? I’m as close as your computer! I work with all my clients via Zoom and my certification is international so I get to serve clients anywhere and everywhere. When do you observe my child? I actually don’t! I have worked in families homes for over twenty years and have found it is most effective to talk to the parent and hear their perspective on their child’s behavior. My clients are welcome to send me videos of their child but that’s usually not necessary. Should my partner be on the consultation call too? You are both welcome to be on the call! However, most people prefer to talk to me individually. My coaching program focuses on one parent. Each parent has different triggers, emotional reactions, and default responses, so I work with each parent individually to address your specific patterns with your child. All coaching sessions can be recorded and a transcript and summary is provided that can be shared with the partner and the partner is welcome to join occasional sessions to ensure everyone is on the same page. I offer a discount for couples that each purchase their own individual coaching package. Do you acccept insurance? No, my services are private pay only. My package was thoughtfully and intentionally created to bridge the gap between what medical insurance provides and what families actually need to change their child(ren)’s behavior. Is your coaching program the same as therapy No! I am not a licensed therapist and do not do therapy. I LOVE therapy and recommend it for all humans, and what I do is very different. While we will discuss some thoughts and emotions that are keeping you stuck, we will do this in a very intentional and step by step way with an emphasis on behavior change. I do not provide medical treatment for a mental health condition, instead I use a unique blend of mindset work and research-based behavioral strategies to change your behavior so that you can change your child’s behavior. Some of my clients are also in therapy to resolve childhood issues, trauma, treat a mental health condition, etc., and it works well to do both. How much does your coaching program cost? I share that information with you on the consultation call once I understand your unique family situation and what your needs are. Become the parent you want to be. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox

Do you have a wonderful child who is also stubborn, strong-willed, sensitive, deeply feeling, hyperactive, impulsive, angry, or anxious? Download my free guide + access to my most popular webinar: How to Get Kids to Listen. Yell Less, Smile More! Support for Parents Raising Kids Ages 0-18 Schedule A Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox Get My FREE E-Guide: "How to Get Kids to Listen with 3 Simple Strategies " Get the Guide Want your kids to listen without yelling? Get my free guide + access to my most popular webinar: How to Get Kids to Listen Get the Guide Does this sound like you? You love your kids — but parenting feels like a constant battle. You’re yelling more than you want to. You’re second-guessing your every move. You feel like you’ve tried everything… and nothing’s worked. You’re Googling parenting tips late at night but still feel stuck. If that’s you — this guide is your first step to less stress and more connection! Get the Guide Here’s what you’ll get inside the free guide + webinar: Simple strategies that work for kids 18 months to 18 years Tools to increase cooperation (without yelling or bribing!) The replay of my most popular workshop: How to Get Kids to Listen A gentle, confidence-building approach to parenting Get the Guide Do you have a wonderful child who is also stubborn, strong-willed, sensitive, deeply feeling, hyperactive, impulsive, angry, or anxious? Does your child have a diagnosis like ADHD or Autism? Are you stressed out and overwhelmed by your child’s behavior? Have you tried everything but nothing works? Understand your kid and know just how to respond Become the parent you want to be Become the parent you want to be. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox

Join Parenting Coach & Behavior Expert Melissa Schulz, MS, BCBA, to learn GUIDE; a simple, proven 5-step process to finally understand the why behind the behavior and respond with confidence and calm. Yell Less, Smile More! Support for Parents Raising Kids Ages 0-18 Schedule A Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox From From Explosive to Empowered: How to Respond (Not React) When Behavior Gets Tough Struggling with your child’s challenging behavior despite trying everything? If your child is strong-willed, highly sensitive, or neurodiverse, this free webinar is for you . Join Parenting Coach & Behavior Expert Melissa Schulz, MS, BCBA, to learn GUIDE; a simple, proven 5-step process to finally understand the why behind the behavior and respond with confidence and calm. FREE MASTERCLASS February 27th at 9:30am PT | 10:30am MT | 11:30am CT | 12:30pm ET FREE MASTERCLASS Learn How To: ✅ Truly understand your child’s behavior (and why what you’ve tried before hasn’t worked) ✅ Identify and release your own triggers so you can stay calm and confident ✅ Get to the root of your child’s misbehavior instead of just reacting to it ✅ Build stronger connections while teaching positive behaviors ✅ Respond effectively when things get tough without the power struggles You’ll walk away with practical tools you can start using right away to bring more peace, connection, and confidence into your parenting. Save Your Spot! Friday, February 27th at 9:30 am PT / 10:30 am MT / 11:30 am CT / 12:30 pm ET Attend live or catch the replay. Register using the form to save your space. You’ll receive all the details you need to attend after signing up. Become the parent you want to be. Apply for a Free Consultation Get Free Support in Your Inbox